I've known this kid since he was born, but we hadn't talked in a few years.
He graduated from college, and decided to throw himself a party, and decided to invite me and my husband to the party. Alas, we couldn't attend the beerfest.
I wondered why were were invited to the party after a few years of no contact, not even on Facebook. Then it dawned on me that he probably just wanted some money.
We decided to send this kid a $40 gift card to a beer distributor. [Which is what we have in Pennsylvania, separate establishments that only sell cases of beer and hard pretzels.] It was a gesture that we cared enough that we wanted him to have fun, but we didn't care enough to make his car payment.
Have I heard from him since? No. Ingrate.